Help for Healing

Bitter & Sweet, living daily with grief

A Challenge for You

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I’ve written about the months that I spent helping my dad downsize his house for a one-bedroom apartment. If it wasn’t such exhausting work, I would advertise my organizing business more. I mean, we had only had one extra box left. The day we moved him we also had all but one box unpacked. That stuff doesn’t happen by luck.

I try to always keep a Good Will box going. Whenever I notice something we don’t need, I get rid of it. So when I make a concerted effort to do a house purge, I am always shocked at how much I have to get rid of again. It’s amazing how fast it builds up.

Summer asked me one day when I was driving home from Dad’s if it made me want to go home and throw all my stuff out. I said no because I was usually too exhausted to even move my arms. But it stuck in my head. Damn Summer. She has a way of doing that.

I gave myself a goal. I want to try to get rid of one thing in my house every day for a year. That would be a lot of items. I wondered if six months was more realistic, but so far I’ve been doing it. I’m not even sure what day I started.

I started talking to my neighbor’s about music. They recommended I download Itunes so I can upload my music cd’s onto my computer. This is kind of cheating, but now I am ripping one cd every day. Then I check all the songs on the list and delete those that I don’t like at all. The ones that I think are ok but wouldn’t really choose to listen to, stay on the album. The ones I actually want to hear go on the playlist. It’s amazing (at least with the ones I’ve started with) how few of the songs on an album I actually want to hear. After that, get this… I am putting the actual cd in the give away box. I’m going to get rid of all of them.

That will probably take up several months so that is why I say it is kind of like cheating. But I plan to keep getting rid of things. Americans are massive consumers. I don’t want my kids to ever have to deal with all my stuff. I scan what I can and then get rid of it.

That is my challenge to you. You don’t have to ditch your cds, but pick some sort of time goal and get rid of one thing every day and see what happens. Almost everyone who downsizes feels relieved. There is so much freedom in having less to take care of. People who hold on to their things, tend to be the ones who are always trying to get more or worried about getting their share. There is no freedom with that.

Go ahead and share your stories. My writing is getting boring anyway. Let me know if you take the challenge, or let me know if you have already done some purging and felt good about it. Happy garbage day 🙂

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Author: helpforhealing

Darcy Thiel, MA is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in NY State. She earned her Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Wheaton College in Wheaton, IL. Ms. Thiel has been a couple and family therapist in West Seneca, New York since the mid-1990’s. Ms. Thiel is currently an adjunct professor at Medaille College in Buffalo, NY. She is also an accomplished speaker and presenter on various topics throughout the Western NY area. She is the proud author of Bitter and Sweet: A Family’s Journey with Cancer, the prequel to Life After Death, on This Side of Heaven. To learn more about Ms. Thiel and other exciting books from Baby Coop Publishing, LLC, visit her website at www.babycooppublishing.com or www.darcythiel.com Copyright Help for Healing by Darcy Thiel © 2012-2016. All rights reserved.

3 thoughts on “A Challenge for You

  1. Preach it, Sista! ♡

  2. Its too bad your siblings/family weren’t there to help with packing, moving, unpacking, garage sales, etc to take some of the stress off you. Always thought you had a supportive family but doesn’t sound it from your blogs.

    • very inappropriate forum to air your personal feelings; there were many times when i talked about all of us doing things together; but when you started doing things behind my back like telling your daughter to not put things in boxes i told her to, or the digs that would come from your husband, or dozens of other things, i stopped asking for your help; and i think its to my credit that i used discretion and didn’t write about that stuff; this is my professional page; its not meant to air dirty family laundry or make sarcastic stabs at people

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